Regrets
Do you regret anything? I do. Sometimes I regret not being more stingy with my heart. Funny, right? Not really. Children WILL break your heart faster than anyone else. Maybe because of the love that one feels for them. I don't know.
When my kids were small, I did everything for them. I still do. Sometimes when I know that I shouldn't too. But how does one know when to stop, or HOW to stop? There are no books that tell me how to act when one of them hurts my feelings, or does something so hurtful that all I can do is cry with frustration. When THEY come to you upset and frustrated, and you listen, but when you need them, they are not there for you. How does one finally let go? When you see the mistakes your children are making, and see the heartache that they don't realize they are hurling toward....Do you say something and alienate your relationship with them? Do you really want to take that chance?
How DO you tell your child to stop and take a better look at something? How do you tell them when they are dating someone "MAKE SURE THEY TOO, WANT THE SAME THINGS YOU DO" like family, children, and all that is attached to that. Without that you haven't got a real relationship. Oh yes, he might tell you he loves you, give you everything you want, and treat you well. That's great, I just hope that he does want the same things you do, and is willing to go the distance with YOU. But these are only words, and you cannot see the whole picture, because you are "in love". And listening to, or asking advice from Mom is just not what you want at this point. As you told me a while ago "I do not want to think about that now. I am happy now." So when do you think about that? When it's been 5 or 10 years down the road and you are still with him, but he is "just not ready yet"? Do you worry then? Or are you willing to be "a girlfriend" forever? Didn't you tell me, some time ago, that you want a family? Then go after what you want! And don't think, like you thought in your last relationship, that you will change him. You probably remember how that one worked out, don't you?
When my kids were small, I did everything for them. I still do. Sometimes when I know that I shouldn't too. But how does one know when to stop, or HOW to stop? There are no books that tell me how to act when one of them hurts my feelings, or does something so hurtful that all I can do is cry with frustration. When THEY come to you upset and frustrated, and you listen, but when you need them, they are not there for you. How does one finally let go? When you see the mistakes your children are making, and see the heartache that they don't realize they are hurling toward....Do you say something and alienate your relationship with them? Do you really want to take that chance?
How DO you tell your child to stop and take a better look at something? How do you tell them when they are dating someone "MAKE SURE THEY TOO, WANT THE SAME THINGS YOU DO" like family, children, and all that is attached to that. Without that you haven't got a real relationship. Oh yes, he might tell you he loves you, give you everything you want, and treat you well. That's great, I just hope that he does want the same things you do, and is willing to go the distance with YOU. But these are only words, and you cannot see the whole picture, because you are "in love". And listening to, or asking advice from Mom is just not what you want at this point. As you told me a while ago "I do not want to think about that now. I am happy now." So when do you think about that? When it's been 5 or 10 years down the road and you are still with him, but he is "just not ready yet"? Do you worry then? Or are you willing to be "a girlfriend" forever? Didn't you tell me, some time ago, that you want a family? Then go after what you want! And don't think, like you thought in your last relationship, that you will change him. You probably remember how that one worked out, don't you?
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