Heartbeats

Don't say things. What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary. Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Saturday, May 23, 2009

Mommy

Think about this one

When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you. You thanked her by crying all night long.

When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk. You thanked her by running away when she called.

When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love. You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.

When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons. You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.

When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays. You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud.

When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school. You thanked her by screaming, "I'M NOT GOING!"

When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball. You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbor's window.

When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice cream. You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9 years old, she paid for piano lessons. You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10 years old she drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastic to one birthday party after another. You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies. You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows. You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

When you were 13, she suggested a haircut that was becoming. You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp. You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug. You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to drive her car. You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call. You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation. You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus carried your bags. You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone. You thanked her by saying, "It's none of your business."

When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future. You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you."

When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation. You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment. You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24, she met your fiance and asked about your plans for the future. You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!"

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you. You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby. You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now."

When you were 40, she called to remind you of a relative's birthday. You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now."

When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her. You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then, one day, she quietly died. And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on your YOUR HEART.


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Friday, April 10, 2009

No man is ever worth your tears, but the one who is, will never make you cry.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

A woman should have and know........

Read it, believe it, live it. 'MAYA ANGELOU'S'

BEST POEM EVER


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
enough
money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
something
perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams
wants to see her in an hour...


A WOMAN SHOULD
HAVE .
a youth she's content to leave behind....


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
a past juicy
enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her
old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
one friend who
always makes her laugh.. and one who lets her cry...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a goo d piece
of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her
family...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
eight
matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for
a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
a feeling of
control over her destiny..


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD
KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself..


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to quit
a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend
without;
ruining the friendship...


EVERY WOMAN
SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK
AWAY...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her
childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she
would and wouldn't do for love or more...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....
how to live
alone... even if she doesn't like it...


EVERY
WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to
go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a
charming Inn in the woods....
when her soul needs
soothing...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a
month...and a year...

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

This is an old blog that I posted. It WAS NOT written by me, but I felt it was written by someone who really knew what they were talking about. So I am posting it again, in hopes that certain people will see it, read it, and come to their senses.........hope springs eternal, I guess!


To all the young ladies I care about

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve
then heck no, you cannot 'be friends.' A friend would not mistreat a friend.

Do not settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Do not stay because you think 'it will get better.' You will be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Do NOT EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh, Lord! If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships....................there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he does not turn out to be Mr... Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Do not fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

About a Dog



"He is my other eyes that can see above the clouds; my other ears that hear above the winds. He is the part of me that can reach out into the sea. He has told me a thousand times over that I am his reason for being; by the way he rests against my leg; by the way he thumps his tail at my smallest smile; by the way he shows his hurt when I leave without taking him. (I think it makes him sick with worry when he is not along to care for me.) When I am wrong, he is delighted to forgive. When I am angry, he clowns to make me smile. When I am happy, he is joy unbounded. When I am a fool, he ignores it. When I succeed, he brags. Without him, I am only another man. With him, I am all-powerful. He is loyalty itself. He has taught me the meaning of devotion. With him, I know a secret comfort and a private peace. He has brought me understanding where before I was ignorant. His head on my knee can heal my human hurts. His presence by my side is protection against my fears of dark and unknown things. He has promised to wait for me... whenever... wherever - in case I need him. And I expect I will - as I always have. He is just my dog." - Gene Hill

Thursday, May 08, 2008

Mom

Our mothers are a part of us all. So then why is it so difficult to have time for them?
I LOVE my mother. I accept all her faults, and try to do the things she wants me to do. When I was a teenager, I couldn't stand her. Didn't like her perfect figure, her almost obsessive cleanliness, and her nosy ways. She had to know just what I was doing at all times. I hated never being able to sleep past 8 in the morning on weekends, because we all had to clean house. (I think that's probably why I always let my kids sleep as long as they wanted, and didn't make them clean their rooms as much as they should have.) I guess my mother liked her life full of schedules and timed to perfection. Every minute had to be filled with some kind of an activity! I had to entertain my younger brother and sister, even though I didn't really want to. But i had no choice, it was how it was. I loved them, it's just that it is hard to spend your free time playing with little ones, when, as a teenager, you would rather do anything else but that! So in a way, I grew to resent her. I loved her, but a big part of me KNEW I didn't want my life to turn out like that. So I left as soon as I could and started my own family. I call her every day, even when I don't want to, because I love her. She expects that of me, and my brother and sister. That's how it is. But as the years go by, I realize how much I am like her. I WANT my children to call me every day, and I get upset when they don't. I like to know what they are doing, like it's any of my business..........I have come full circle. My kids call me "overprotective" all the time. And Chase sometimes calls me psycho Mom.... I hope he is joking! But I finally understand what it is to be a Mom. And I don't understand Moms that hurt their children, or do not do everything in their power to make their lives better. How can it be ok, any of that? I guess that I ought to thank my Mom for all of it. The good and the bad, because that's what made her a really good Mom, and me a ok Mom too. Even though I grow impatient with her many times, I am aware how much I would miss her if she wasn't here. I am grateful to have her and will try to do all I can to show her how much she means to me. Because, after all, isn't that what life is all about? Telling people we care about how much they mean to you?

Saturday, April 12, 2008

To all the young ladies I care about

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve
then heck no, you cannot 'be friends.' A friend would not mistreat a friend.
Do not settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Do not stay because you think 'it will get better.' You will be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Do NOT EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh, Lord! If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships....................there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he does not turn out to be Mr... Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Do not fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Sunday, February 03, 2008

My life

Mos of the time, I am happy and safisfied with my life. There are times I start to think about what I should have done and didn't because either I was lazy or just didn't think about the whole picture. There ARE things I would NEVER change.
I am happy to have married my husband. I really believe he is my soulmate. Sometimes it does scare me, that we think so much alike, and that we are always on the same page. I cannot imagine my life without him. Mostly, I respect him. And I wish I could be more like him in many ways.
I would NEVER want to go through life without having children, especially the wonderful ones I do have. I am so serious when I say that I have NEVER loved anyone like I love my children. I don't think one can say they have loved till they have a child. Sometimes I feel sorry for people without children. They have NO idea what it means to love someone so much that you would lay down your life for them...in a second, without even thinking about it. The sacrifices are great too, but it makes the love you feel so much deeper and more meaningful. How do I describe that feeling, when your child puts their arms around your neck for the first time? Or when they are hurt, and only YOU can ease the pain. There are no words for that overpowering feeling. It is pure love...........the basic thing that makes everything so real. I think that there is NOTHING I wouldn't do for my children.
I would have done something more with my education. I would have finished college, and gotten a good job. That is the ONLY thing I would have done differently. But I guess it's never to late, and I am working on that right now.
So thing are as they should be...I am happy, surrounded by people that love me, and I love. I hope that never chages.